Don’t think about a pink elephant.
Whatever you do, don’t think about a pink elephant. Don’t picture a pink elephant in your mind. Just don’t do it.
Now, what are you thinking of? If I were to wager, I’d bet you’re thinking of a pink elephant.
Does this sound familiar? Do you often think about the things you’re trying to avoid? Don’t fall. Don’t be awkward. Stop worrying. You’d better not miss.
...It’s that time of year when we all look to the future. The new year is a representation of a fresh start. An opportunity to do things differently, better. Full of possibilities for the future you want to bring to fruition.
...For many, the holidays are the most stressful time of the year. They represent a time when we can reconnect with friends and family and update them on our lives. Unfortunately, this sets us up for awkward questions about what we have (or haven’t) accomplished during the year.
...We are entering another unprecedented holiday season. Once again, a rapidly spreading coronavirus is threatening to overwhelm the health system. We are more politically polarized than ever. Add in surmounting holiday stress, and there is bound to be tension during the holidays.
...Everyone wants to be well-liked. As humans, we are almost biologically wired to want to be valued and appreciated by others. From an evolutionary perspective, likeability protects us. Being part of a group or clan used to be necessary for our survival, and in a lot of ways still is. Connection is a basic human need.
...The idea of getting what you want gets a bad reputation. Some people worry it’s selfish to ask for what you need. The reality is, other people can’t read minds. We need to ask for things in order to get our needs met. It isn’t selfish; it’s necessary.
...Questions and reminders that may frustrate us, but can also lead to growth.
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