September 21, 2023
Therapy is a commitment. When you start therapy, you dedicate your time, your emotional energy, and your financial resources. Many people experience sticker shock when they see how much a therapy session costs. But when you pay for a therapy session, you’re not just investing in the time spent talking with your therapist. The fees you pay cover a range of essential services that happen behind the scenes.
July 23, 2023
In my office, I see many people with mistaken beliefs about relationships. These beliefs are learned early in life and are difficult to break. They might be protective in the short term, but at a certain point, they cause conflicts at work, in friendships, with families, and especially in romantic relationships. And the hardest part is that these beliefs are pervasive. Which is why you need to challenge them.
July 23, 2023
My mind loves worst-case scenarios. And yours might too. Our brains are hard-wired to protect us, which means they are hard-wired to look out for danger and worst-case scenarios. Anxious brains are constantly scanning the environment for people, situations, and things that could be dangerous and jumping to “what if” scenarios. Because of this, anxiety can easily spiral out of control.
July 23, 2023
How to create your own anxiety antivirus software
July 5, 2023
Deciding to go to therapy can be the scariest thing in the world. It takes real courage to notice you want to change something. And it takes real courage to make that first call or email a step towards healing. You are already partway there by reading this post.
June 14, 2023
Anxious brains are pesky. They jump around from thought to thought, sometimes so quickly we don’t even notice we are spiraling. They tell us we aren’t good enough, smart enough, or wealthy enough. They tell us that the worst-case scenario is around the corner.
May 14, 2023
Mental health advocates often encourage people to “reach out” when struggling. Asking for help, talking with a professional, and making changes in your life are really brave. But what comes after that first step?
Here are five ways to conquer therapy bravely once you’ve made that first appointment.
March 14, 2023
Don’t think about a pink elephant.
Whatever you do, don’t think about a pink elephant. Don’t picture a pink elephant in your mind. Just don’t do it.
Now, what are you thinking of? If I were to wager, I’d bet you’re thinking of a pink elephant.
Does this sound familiar? Do you often think about the things you’re trying to avoid? Don’t fall. Don’t be awkward. Stop worrying. You’d better not miss.
February 21, 2023
National Eating Disorder Awareness Week occurs at the end of February each year. Appropriate awareness of eating disorders is so critical, partly because of widely accepted diet culture and fatphobia.
Eating disorders are also tricky gremlins. They show up slowly, under your awareness, until suddenly things feel completely out of control. One of the hallmark symptoms is a lack of awareness of the seriousness of the disorder—meaning that by the time you need help, you may already be at the bottom of a dark pit.
January 17, 2023
Let me start by saying there is no “right” way to do therapy. But there are definitely certain factors that can make your experience more (or less) effective.
December 28, 2022
It’s that time of year when we all look to the future. The new year is a representation of a fresh start. An opportunity to do things differently, better. Full of possibilities for the future you want to bring to fruition.
December 14, 2022
College athletes have always had distinct mental health needs. Student-athletes are likely to struggle with depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and substance abuse–but they often do not seek help. This sets up a huge problem where athletes are expected to perform at a high level but mentally suffer in silence.
June 16, 2022
With the rise of social media, more people are seeing into the process of therapy. You might follow a therapist on Instagram or subscribe to clinic email lists. If you view TikTok videos, you may have come across the term “trauma dumping.”
May 12, 2022
The Netflix show “Love Is Blind” hit the streaming service like a hurricane. Fans wanted to know: Is love really blind? Can couples fall in love—and stay in love—without ever seeing each other?
November 26, 2021
For many, the holidays are the most stressful time of the year. They represent a time when we can reconnect with friends and family and update them on our lives. Unfortunately, this sets us up for awkward questions about what we have (or haven’t) accomplished during the year.
November 9, 2021
We are entering another unprecedented holiday season. Once again, a rapidly spreading coronavirus is threatening to overwhelm the health system. We are more politically polarized than ever. Add in surmounting holiday stress, and there is bound to be tension during the holidays.
October 23, 2021
Everyone wants to be well-liked. As humans, we are almost biologically wired to want to be valued and appreciated by others. From an evolutionary perspective, likeability protects us. Being part of a group or clan used to be necessary for our survival, and in a lot of ways still is. Connection is a basic human need.
October 1, 2021
Trigger Warning: this piece contains details about mass shooting events that might trigger some readers.
August 24, 2021
The idea of getting what you want gets a bad reputation. Some people worry it’s selfish to ask for what you need. The reality is, other people can’t read minds. We need to ask for things in order to get our needs met. It isn’t selfish; it’s necessary.
August 19, 2021
The science behind your frustration and what to do about it.
July 23, 2021
It is July and the Tokyo Olympics are in full swing. Many of us wait with electric anticipation for this event every four years. For many sports, including gymnastics, the Olympics is the pinnacle of athletic mastery.
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